Meditation is a powerful means for personal growth and is usually a pursuit of adults who are working on their own self-improvement. However, what is good for the adults is also good for children. In fact, it may be even more important for children to practice meditation, as it can be the basis for a happy and successful life. If you have children, then you owe it to them to provide them with the skills and habits that will enable them to realize their full potential.  I have experience teaching children to meditate and would like to share it with you in this article.

The first point for teaching your children how to practice meditation is for you to start meditating on a regular basis. The best way to teach to children is by personal example. When your child sees you taking the time to practice meditation on a daily basis, then he or she will understand that it is a good thing.  We should never give the message: “Do as I say, but not as I do.” So, if you have been irregular or procrastinating with your own personal practice, then you should start doing it before you attempt to teach or “preach” to your children.

The second thing to understand is that children, especially very young children, cannot sit or concentrate for very long periods of time. An adult can learn how to meditate for 30 minutes, but it is rare to find a child who can sit that long in silence. So, don’t expect or demand your child to meditate for long periods of time.  Even if a child can get into the habit of meditating for five minutes, twice a day, on a regular basis, then that is enough.

The next step is to find a simple method that your child or children will understand and be able to practice. When I speak about a “child” I generally mean someone who is about five years or older.  Children younger than five are normally not yet ready to meditate, and they shouldn’t be force to do it—though they might want to sit for a few seconds with their older siblings and you as a form of “play.”  These young attempts should not be discouraged but the real efforts at teaching should be focused on children who are five years or older.

So, how should they meditate? A great way to do it is with music.  Sing a simple, happy song or chant with your child, and then sit in silence.  During the silent period they and you should think that they are filled with love and surrounded by love.  You can pick out the songs or chants from church or religious hymn books or books of spiritual or inspirational songs. Pick something that corresponds to your own likings and sensibility.

You can help the process by using visualization as well. Tell your child to imagine “we are very light and we are floating on some white clouds, surrounded by brilliant sunshine.” Children really try to visualize and create the image in their mind.  By doing so, they start to disconnect with the external environment and start focusing within.

When the visualization has been done, then gently direct your child to think of the song that preceded meditation and to feel that he or she is filled with love and surrounded by love.

Meditate together with your child before the evening meal but make sure that your child is not famished or very hungry. If that is the case, then give a light snack first. A child should not associate meditation with deprivation, but rather it should be experienced as a happy activity. Meditating before going to school is another great habit that should be encouraged. The mind that is calm and peaceful can more readily absorb and learn new things.

It is not difficult for children to learn meditation because their own pure and simple nature is an asset in practicing meditation. So, by all means, start meditating yourself, teach it to your children, and then sit down with them and meditate on the love which is the essence of your being.